REMEMBRANCE

Napa Valley mourns Robin Williams

2014-08-12T15:00:00Z 2014-08-13T17:38:08Z Napa Valley mourns Robin WilliamsJENNIFER HUFFMAN jhuffman@napanews.com Napa Valley Register

Whether meeting him in an elevator, glimpsing him at a party, serving him a drink or watching him on TV as millions did, everyone felt a connection with Robin Williams.

After the death Monday in Tiburon of one of America’s favorite funnymen, Napans who knew or met Williams expressed sorrow about the loss of the beloved comic.

Williams, who most recently owned a large estate on Wall Road bordering Napa and Sonoma counties, now on the market for $29.7 million, spent a fair amount of time in and around Napa County. He was seen at various community events and supported a number of local causes.

In 2009, “We were lucky enough to have five shows with Robin ‘trying out new work,’” wrote former Napa Valley Opera house artistic director Evy Warshawski.

“The five shows sold out within minutes,” recalled Warshawski. Sixty percent of the proceeds went to charities that he had chosen in Napa County — “selections that the groups did not even know about until they received checks,” she said.

“He was a pleasure to work with, very unassuming,” Warshawski said. “He didn’t have a whole entourage. When approached for autographs, he was as accommodating and as nice as ever. Backstage, he was friendly, quiet and very funny. We had a gift with Robin.”

Julie Dalrymple, formerly the director of marketing at the Opera House, recalled meeting Williams during those shows. “It was one of the most exciting times” during her tenure at the venue, she said.

She once escorted Williams in an elevator on the way to his dressing room. “He was unexpectedly quiet, shy and reserved, not like you expect a legendary comic,” she said.

And naturally, Williams was hysterical when he performed. “My cheeks hurt from laughing so hard,” she said.

The Pathway Home of Yountville was one of those nonprofits that benefited from Williams’ generosity at those Opera House shows.

“It was a nice surprise,” said Fred Gusman, CEO of The Pathway Home, Inc. “He was a very generous soul,” said Gusman, who never met Williams.

Later, Williams also narrated a video for the group.

“You don’t see his face but you know his voice,” said Gusman. While post-traumatic stress is a serious topic, “He had a way of saying something serious with a comical twist so that it made more of an impression.”

Gusman said that Williams’ death should be a wake-up call. “Just like post-traumatic stress doesn’t discriminate, depression does not discriminate. Anyone can have it. People need to be aware and supportive.”

Electrical contractor Myles Davis recalled being invited to Francis Ford Coppola’s home for his annual harvest party. “Lo and behold Robin Williams and his family is there,” wrote Davis. “His daughter was maybe 3 years old. He spent the whole party playing peek-a-boo behind a tree with her.”

Davis said he’s been a fan since Williams’ “Mork & Mindy” days. “He was an amazing talent,” said Davis. “This one really hit close to home. It’s really sad.”

Williams continued to frequent the Opera House, sometimes as a patron. In October 2010, he slipped into the Café Theatre at the Opera House just before showtime to watch comic legend Mort Sahl do political satire. Sahl held the spotlight on stage, while Williams, with his explosive, throaty laughter, set himself apart from the rest of the audience.

Napa musician and photographer Jeff Madnik never met Williams but credited him as “one of the most influential artists” of his life.

Williams inspired the then-high school student to take drama and join a thespian group, he said. “I named my cat Shazbot. I wore rainbow suspenders. He introduced me to Jonathan Winters.”

One Madnik favorite was his 1979 recording “Reality – What a Concept.” “I listened to that record so many times I probably wore it out,” said Madnik.

“I found my voice through his,” said Madnik. “We’ve lost one of the greats.”

Lexie Boezeman Cataldo, a former Napan and photographer who now lives in Los Angeles, has a picture of her then-4-year old daughter, Asia Cataldo, with Williams on the set of the 1999 film “Bicentennial Man.”

“He was so nice, and really gave her special attention,” said Boezeman Cataldo. After hearing of Williams’ death on Monday, Asia Cataldo called her mother and asked for the photo of the two on the set. “She said, ‘Mom please make sure you send it to me.’”

“All I can hope for is that he’s really at peace now,” said Boezeman Cataldo.

In the early 1980s, Diana Gelow Cybulski was a waitress at the then-Washington Street Bar and Grill in Yountville.

Williams was a regular “and he always ordered a Perrier with three ice cubes,” she recalled. He usually wore some kind of funny hat. “Everyone knew who he was but he wanted to be incognito,” she said.

Williams left generous tips and made it a point to talk to the wait staff. “It wasn’t the VIPs he chatted with. It was us workers,” she said. Hearing the news of his death, Gelow Cybulski said, “I feel badly for his kids.”

“They need to figure this out,” Gelow Cybulski said of depression, which had dogged Williams. “Too many good people are dying from this.”

Vintner Garen Staglin, who founded the International Mental Health Research Organization (IMHRO) and One Mind For Research, recalled when Williams showed up at Auction Napa Valley one year “and spontaneously became an auctioneer and brought the house down. He bid against himself. He was quite entertaining and magical, as he often was.”

Staglin, who has raised tens of millions for brain disease research, called Williams’ death a tragedy.

“Robin died from a brain disease,” said Staglin. “We use this term ‘committed suicide’ but it’s brain disease that caused this to happen.”

Staglin said he hopes that ultimately, “It will serve as a call to action…this isn’t something we can ignore anymore. We need to work together to fund research.”

Staglin urged anyone exhibiting warning signs of suicide to call the U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.

Friends and family also need to pay attention, he said. “Most people, before they take this action, they reach out to somebody. They are signaling they are in a desperate place,” Staglin said.

For parents with a child facing mental illness, “the most important thing is to provide unconditional love,” he said. “Tell them you are not going to allow them to not get better.”

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  1. glenroy
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    glenroy - August 13, 2014 5:20 am
    A regular at the 'ol Yountville Saloon....and the Dinner for that matter….though most of the customers at saloon where too inebriated notice, and at the Dinner suffering the effects of the inebriation to notice.



  2. reagangirl
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    reagangirl - August 13, 2014 7:37 am
    A VERY KIND MAN. RIP
  3. Iamfalconer49
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    Iamfalconer49 - August 13, 2014 8:08 am
    Does anyone remember the Halloween party at Howard's house when Robin came as Napoleon? To honor Robin, let us all do something totally ridiculous today!
  4. Caribfan
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    Caribfan - August 13, 2014 9:27 am
    There is a void without Robin Williams around the bay area. I saw him at a Billy Idol concert at the Filmore and he was just as incognito as ever at the front of the stage smiling. My heart goes out to his family and friends and all of his fans. What a loss. I hope this brings more attention to the mental health issues challenging our community. It can take one second or a minute for that feeling of desperation to change and you can avoid making a decision you can't get back.
  5. brucestevens
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    brucestevens - August 13, 2014 4:17 pm
    I met Robin Williams outside Orcard Supply one day. He parked next to me in an old Volvo and had an old fishing hat on. He noticed my fishing gear in my truck and ask me where I was going fishing. I told him Clear Lake for catfish and crappie. I told him we would spend the night. He ask if I would take him with me and of course I said yes. He met me two hours later and we left to Clear Lake. He was quiet and nice and wanted to make sure he had my name , address and phone number. He loved just sitting peacefully in a chair on the bank. Said he loved the peace and quiet. He caught five nice size catfish that night and I cleaned them for him the next morning. We just made small talk most of the time. I told him I was a Viet Nam Vet and liked Good Morning Viet Nam the best and Patch Adams second. We left for Napa and he must of thanked me twenty times for taking him. He said he wanted to stay in touch and would call me to go again. He never did, but it was great sharing the time with him.
  6. calisa
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    calisa - August 13, 2014 9:21 pm
    Brucestevens, what a fantastic story! All the money , all the fame, and all he wanted was to sit on a bank with a stranger, make small talk and catch fish. Just the basic simple things in life it sounds as tho he was missing. Thank you for sharing. I will remember your story always. It's true what they say...money cannot buy you happiness.
  7. BROOKSIE
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    BROOKSIE - August 15, 2014 9:20 am
    brucestevens, You have me crying this morning. That is an amazing story. I believe that is why the world loved him so much, just a regular guy. Thank you for your story.
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