My recent move away from Napa to Henderson, Nev. has been filled with interesting moments in relationships I have developed over the years.

Most continue the same as they have since our first meeting, while some have grown stronger and others have fallen away.

I consider every relationship to be important but I have learned to be respectful and allow space for those who need it even though I miss them in my daily life. I always wish for them the happiness that brings peace and abundance into our lives.

The book I’m reading today is “The Motivation Manifesto” by Brendon Burchard. It’s wonderful to me to find so many writers whose philosophy is so close to mine.

This book goes into detail about nine declarations to claim our personal power. One of those declarations brings peace to me as I contemplate those relationships that have fallen away for now.

He writes, “We are exhausted. All around us we see faces that look weathered, drooped, stern. We hear conversations that sound increasingly quiet and resigned. Like whispers from a tired, disbanding tribe. The emotional energy of the world is flatlining. Well-being has been cast aside for wealth; success favored over sanity.”

“In the process, some have turned cold toward life, and toward others. Where is the energized, heightened, exhilarated pulse one would expect from such a chosen and capable people? Why do we not hear more laughter and life? Where is the vibrant, mad fury and passion of the fully engaged human?”

“Where are the people burning with charisma and joy and magnetism? Where is the appreciation for life’s spark? We must re-examine our attitude toward life. Our supreme duty must be to rekindle the magic of life. For this, we now declare: WE SHALL PRACTICE JOY AND GRATITUDE.”

Life is filled with lessons for each of us every day – My mother taught me to enjoy every moment.

The loss of someone close to me, whether by death or by choice, leaves a vacancy that I can choose to either mourn over forever—or to bask in the memories of love and joy they brought into my life and exercise gratitude for having them in my life for any amount of time.

My father would have turned 87 years of age this week. Remembering his birthday also helps me to remember the wonderful lessons he taught me before he passed away four years ago.

I am forever grateful for his wisdom and teachings. It also reminds me that those who are alive but estranged from me may yet come back into my life.

I look forward to reconnecting with them when they are able to understand that distance and infrequent connections have not changed my love and joy I feel for having them in my life.

May each of you enjoy the abundance I have enjoyed through all my relationships.

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Randy Martinsen is a brand partner for Nerium International and a mentor of leadership principles for success. He can be reached at 707-206-6443 or randym@budgetworks.net.