I ran across an article last week titled “18 Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence” by Dr. Travis Bradberry.

He said, “Measuring emotional intelligence can be difficult because of its intangible nature. But we have analyzed the data from the million-plus people that TalentSmart has tested for EQ to help identify the behaviors that are sure signs you have a high EQ.”

When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: People with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time.

This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly-held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.

Emotional intelligence taps into a fundamental element of human behavior that is distinct from your intellect.

There is no known connection between IQ and emotional intelligence; you simply can’t predict emotional intelligence based on how smart someone is.

Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that we know 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking.

You can always take a scientifically validated test, such as the one that comes with the Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book.

Unfortunately, quality (scientifically valid) EQ tests aren’t free. So, he analyzed the data from the million-plus people who TalentSmart has tested in order to identify the behaviors that are the hallmarks of a high EQ.

The following 18 points are just the headline for each part of his discussion, but give you enough to understand his analysis.

1. You have a robust emotional vocabulary.

2. You’re curious about people.

3. You embrace change.

4. You know your strengths and weaknesses.

5. You’re a good judge of character.

6. You are difficult to offend.

7. You know how to say ‘no’ (to yourself and others).

8. You let go of mistakes.

9. You give and expect nothing in return.

10. You don’t hold grudges.

11. You neutralize toxic people.

12. You don’t seek perfection.

13. You appreciate what you have.

14. You disconnect.

15. You limit your caffeine intake.

16. You get enough sleep.

17. You stop negative self-talk in its tracks.

18. You won’t let anyone limit your joy.

If you want to read more details, you can find Dr. Travis Bradberry on LinkedIn.com.

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Randy Martinsen is a brand partner for Nerium International and a mentor of leadership principles for success. He can be reached at 707-206-6443 or randym@budgetworks.net.