Betty Rhodes

Hi again. How are you all doing on getting your “track” just the way you want it? It’s taking longer than we thought, isn’t it? It’s going to be fantastic, though, when we finish.

Each track is uniquely suited to each one of us.

As I look back, my greatest pleasures in life have revolved around good friends. Of course, family always comes first, but I’ve learned to fully appreciate my good friends. So, be sure you make room for good friends to travel along with you on your track.

What? You say you have trouble forming friendships?

Let me share with you something I’ve been reading that will help you with that.

Just like achieving a diet, fitness or career goal, elevating the amount of love in our life requires commitment, change, vision and patience — with yourself and with others.

Let’s list them in their degree of importance.

— You must be the most important person in your life. Sounds strange, doesn’t it, and it’s going to take some getting used to, but only you can choose to surround yourself with positive people who enrich your life versus toxic people who break you down emotionally. You don’t deserve to be treated badly. You are the most important person in your life.

— Visualize spending time laughing with dear friends. Train your brain, as athletes do. They imagine themselves successfully executing their craft with perfection prior to the moment they are expected to perform. Keep your visual handy, visit it at least once a day.

— Let’s talk about our filters. Do you know folks who always cite a litany of reasons why something won’t work? How many people do you know who truly see only the goodness in other people and the world overall? The more you practice this, the more love you will feel in your life. So use your filter.

— Do you build emotional roadblocks? We all get our feelings hurt by something someone says and remain aloof, building walls up around our hearts and not letting people in to get to know the real you. Let’s go back to “train your brain.”

— To experience the kind of love you’ve trained your brain to imagine, there is some work that you need to do to remove whatever negative feelings that are hiding in your psyche. There are emotional roadblocks you need to figure out how to step over, or completely annihilate the barriers. I say, get rid of them. Find a way to forgive and move on. Remember, you are the most important person in your life!

— This last suggestion, for some reason, is the most difficult for me: Do something that makes you truly happy. Take the day off and do something that you’d really love to do. This suggestion is bringing us back to practicing self-love, which was our No. 1 suggestion, remember?

So now, my friends, we have either some new friends to take along on our new track, or we learn to treat ourselves with more love. Either way, it’s a wonderful addition to our track.

I send you love, and you send someone else love, and pretty soon we will all feel good about ourselves, love ourselves, and love one another.

There is no such thing as too much love, so everyone, let’s get started.

See you next week when I’ll have a wonderful invitation for you all. Thank you for your notes. I really appreciate hearing from you, at bettyrrhodes@sbcglobal.net.

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